Children with divorced parents are just like other children – they want a summer vacation filled with travel, friends, fun stuff and plenty of time to do nothing.
When child custody and living situations are complicated, achieving this type of summer vacation can be a challenge. However, with a little bit of thoughtfulness and planning, divorced parents can help their children experience a great summer.
The key is to plan ahead and prioritize your children’s best interests. Parenting schedules can make summer plans hard to nail down – both parents should sit down together early in the process to minimize any problems that could arise. Involving your children in the process will give them something to look forward to.
There’s no need for parents to stage big events; there’s no need for them to splurge on anything. Children also love little things like going to the movies or playing video games in their own living room.
Don’t forget that children, especially teenagers, love unstructured time as well. Let them plan some time to hang out with their friends, explore the neighborhood or just watch television.
If you’re a parent who has to work, consider enrolling your children in a camp or class of their choosing.
If you plan your own work and recreation time in advance, it will make it easier to meet your children’s schedules for the truly important things. Maximize quality time – take care of your errands, job duties, housework, etc. during your non-custodial hours.
Children love to look forward to an uninterrupted dinner at a nice restaurant or a trip to the beach. Children also love to bring their friends along on fun trips. They may feel more comfortable or simply want someone of their own age around.
If you’re the custodial parent and your children are getting ready to visit your ex-spouse for the summer, help with transportation for them. In addition, don’t smother them with excessive rules or constant communication – let them enjoy themselves.
If you’re the parent with visitation rights and you’ll have your children this summer, you may want to consider planning summer events and regular phone calls in advance. Make it convenient for your ex to stay in touch.
By doing this, both parents and the children will be grateful for the chance to develop and maintain healthy relationships.
If you need help in creating a custody agreement or parenting plan, contact the experienced Orange County family law offices of Amy M. Montes for the help you need. We will guide you through your issues so you can focus on moving forward with your life.
