When a couple decides to separate or divorce, they must decide if this is the best way to move on with their lives.
Not only does this major decision affect them, it affects their children as well. Is this healthy or unhealthy for all concerned?
You must find a healthy and productive way to tell your children that their dad is leaving because your marriage is over. Never start the conversation with you and your spouse still love each other. This confuses children of all ages. They ask, “Why are you separating if you still love each other?” You have now confused them or perhaps even made them angry.
It is important to be clear about what is happening now and in the future. Tell them you and their dad are divorcing – allow them to process this information without further confusion. In addition, placing a happy spin on the situation may ring false with older children, leaving them wondering why they aren’t happy.
Divorcing with children can be a challenging process. Focusing on a healthy approach will greatly help to ease this time of transition.
If you have further questions regarding your separation or divorce or how to tell your children in a healthy manner, contact the Orange County family law offices of Amy M. Montes. Amy can help you understand what is in your best interests and protect your rights.
