Divorce is a time of great change.
It changes so many things in a child’s life. While you may not be able to avoid some of these changes, you can help ease their effect on your children.
Just remember that dealing with the aftermath of your divorce can and will be tough – there are so many adjustments to go through. Now that it’s final, you have the opportunity to reshape your life – by making new friends, take up some hobbies, move to a new neighborhood and start dating new people. It’s a chance to discover things about yourself and make wonderful changes to your new life.
You may not realize that these changes impact your child. In order to ease your child’s transition into a new life, follow these tips:
- Try to keep your child’s same routine as best as you can.
- Until you are certain that specific changes are right for you and your child, keep them to yourself. Your child is already uncertain about his or her future, don’t add anything else until you are 100% sure of it. This includes major changes such as moving out of the area, changing your job.
- Discuss significant changes with your child; get their input.
- It is okay for you to date and make new friends, but don’t introduce your child to anyone until you’re sure it’s a meaningful friendship or relationship. Your child needs time to get to know your new friend – introduce him or her slowly and in a casual setting.
If you are having trouble adapting to your new life as a single parent, you are not alone. Divorce is very common and there are plenty of resources to help you through the process now and after the dust settles.
Remember – it’s important for everyone’s emotional needs to be validated through constant communication with one another.
At the Orange County family law offices of Amy M. Montes, we understand the challenges of facing divorce and other family law issues. Call us today and let us assist you in resolving your case, and help you get on with your life as quickly as possible.