Getting divorced and going through separation, with children, a once-shared home and the family dog, is painful and confusing, but it can be rewarding as well.
Most people think about divorce in terms of failed marriage, but our best chance at finding lasting love in the future comes from the personal growth that occurs in the aftermath of a painful break-up.
Once the divorce dust settles, you might find that you have learned some promising lessons that will help you down the road. For example:
Lesson 1 – The only person you can make happy is yourself. You have no control over another person’s feelings and emotions.
Lesson 2 – Don’t play the ‘blame game’. He said/she said will get you nowhere fast.
Lesson 3 – Marriage is about two people not one or the other. It must be mutually beneficial and add value to both.
Lesson 4 – Marriage is a give-and-take relationship. One person cannot be the constant giver while the other is a constant taker.
Lesson 5 – If things become nasty, you don’t have to be best buds with each other. Instead, just be friendly towards each other – get through the divorce in a calm, cool manner – if possible. Keep things short and sweet.
You will most probably learn many lessons while married, regardless of whether it’s for a short time or many, many years. Learn something from your experiences and take the positives into the future with you.
If you are going through a divorce, a good divorce attorney knows the ins and outs of the process and will know exactly what you are fighting for.
Contact the Orange County family law offices of Amy M. Montes. We understand that the divorce process is stressful and confusing, and we are here to provide you as much information and personal attention as possible.
