Is your former spouse a “no-show” parent?

What do you do when your children are waiting for their father to arrive to spend a day with and he calls at the last minute to say he’s not coming?

This is not the first time it’s happened.  How do you handle all of the canceled weekends, the forgotten birthdays, and the missed school performances?  It is hard to be the bearer of bad news, especially to your children.

Broken promises can lead to the insecurity and confusion in a child.   Even though you are not responsible for your ex-husbands actions and you cannot control them, you can help a child deal with disappointment.

·     Help your child express his or her feelings – both positive and negative

·     Show them how to express frustration, sadness and anger

·     Avoid the temptation to complain in front of your child – convey bad news in a nice way

·     Learn how to let go of your anger and bitterness

·     Don’t comfort your children with gifts – offer unconditional love and support instead

When faced with uncertainties in your life because of family matters, contact an experienced Orange County Family attorney who can give you advice on how to protect and preserve yours and your children’s rights.