It’s 2015: there is an app for just about everything, flying robots are now doing deliveries for sites like amazon.com, and the car company Tesla just invented an automobile that drives itself, which will hit commercial markets within the next few years.
Time, technology, are changing, expanding, shattering vestiges of what was common only 10 years ago. However in this lightning speed age of innovation an obsoletion, there remain timeless, age old problems that technology will never really solve. Divorce is one of those problems.
Though the current rate of divorce is falling nationally, it has existed, and probably will continue to exist more or less for forever. However, the game itself has changed; no longer does divorce have to be such a wrenching, ugly thing. With a good plan and a commitment to getting through, you can have a quick, successful divorce.
- Erect a Foundation to Support You
The process will be infinitely easier if you keep yourself from feeling isolated. Look to friends, family, therapy, counselling–there are even divorce support groups in most cities. You have the potential for community, and community will help to absorb your suffering and get you through the truly bad days. Divorce doesn’t have to be bleak; don’t let it become so.
- Practice Financial Vigilism
Remember, you’re going to be on your own after this. Responsible for your own survival for providing for yourself, your children, and whoever else you must look after. Plan ahead. How will your spending habits have to change? Will you have to downsize your home, or your car? What can you live without, until you are financially stable?
These and other questions you need to know answers to before you start the divorce process. As soon as you know you will file for divorce, or your spouse will, it’s important to open up a separate bank account, and any future income you obtain should be flowed into that account. You will also want to watch your ex–are they making any large purchases, emptying your bank accounts etc.? Know the difference between communal and separate property and watch your assets, to ensure you don’t get cheated.
- Make a Definite Timeline
You should make a real schedule of important events, aside from a financial calendar. If you decide to go to court, make sure you set a deadline to have finished preparing with your lawyer well ahead of time.
- Choose the Best Process for You
Not all divorcing couples need to go through a lengthy court process. Mediation is also an option, if you think you will be able to civilly come to an agreement with your ex. However, you will still probably want an experienced attorney to ensure you make good agreements.
- Avoid Picking at Old Wounds
The decision has been made. You’re no longer continuing with the relationship. Do not forget that in the proceeding, by attacking or falling victim to old arguments that will never be resolved. You’re starting over; it’s time to forget and move on.
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