What does it mean when you have shared custody with your ex-spouse? Shared (also known as joint) custody is when the custody arrangements are split as evenly as possible between each parent. This means that you are typically sharing time with the child in equal measure, or whichever arrangement works for you to get as close as possible to that. Sometimes it means splitting weekdays between the parents or having one parent have the children every weekend. Either way, it is seen as a ‘fair’ agreement between parents who want to play an active role in their child’s life. Today we will answer some questions about 50/50 custody and when it works for you – as well as when it might not.
FAQ on Shared Custody
How does the judge determine shared custody? It really depends on many factors, but boils down to the best interest of the child. They will look at many factors such as the stability and routine of the child, both parent’s backgrounds, and more to come to their decision.
When should shared custody not be the answer? Let’s face it – shared custody is not right for every situation. Here are some questions that might be looked at even further: Is the child having troubles adjusting in school? Do they have disabilities? Are there any other medical problems? Does one parent have an abusive history or is not in the picture? Many aspects will be looked at to come to this answer.
How does residential custody come into play? Let’s say that you and your spouse just received a divorce and now you’re planning on leaving the marital home where your child grew up. It could affect your chances when it comes to shared custody, as your ex has established residential custody. It does not mean that you won’t have time with your child, it just gives you extra steps to consider.
When school starts, what should we do? Do you have a schedule that works for your child when they are young, but now they’re starting school? Perhaps you split half the week with your ex. This will not work when it comes to them boarding the bus at the same house. You may need a modification to your schedule to a plan that works for everyone involved but doesn’t disrupt your child’s school life.
What if my children don’t like 50/50 custody? Your children are upset with the change and you aren’t sure what to do. The best thing that you can do is talk to your children about why they feel this way and have an honest, civil conversation with your ex about what you can do moving forward. Getting to the root of the problem will be helpful, because the courts want you to cooperate.
As you can see, there are many aspects that can become centerfold when it comes to your shared custody case, and we want to help. This arrangement is ideal but that doesn’t mean that you won’t run into issues. Let us help you every step of the way, and give us a call.