When divorce takes an ugly turn, a spouse may seek revenge for the wrongdoing that took place before or during the divorce. However, the simple truth is that this always backfires. Many women believe that they can control their ex through matters like alimony or holding child visitation over their heads, not knowing that the outcome will be much worse. This is why we are here today to help you understand why seeking revenge is never a good idea during the divorce process.
How Many Spouses Seek Revenge
There are some ways that spouses seek revenge on another spouse more commonly than others. Here are some examples:
Control Through Alimony: Many spouses want to feel control long after the divorce, which is why alimony ends up being used as a weapon instead of something helpful for spouses. It may be tempting to use financial gain as a way to seek revenge, but you should never do it. The legal system should never be used as a way to punish someone just because of what happened in your past.
Stealing Property or Cutting Utilities: There have been people in the past who have emptied the entire house of all property so that a spouse has nothing to come home to. However, actions like this can begin all-out war in the courtroom later on. Cutting utilities or stealing property behind a spouse’s back can lead to a downward spiral of attacks that could have been prevented.
Moving with the Kids: You may try to get back at your ex by taking the kids and leaving; however, this is most often seen as wrongful conduct and you could end up losing out on time with your children when custody is decided – so be careful of the moves you make.
Cleaning out Bank Account: This could lead to an emergency court hearing when one spouse is left with absolutely no finances, where you end up being in the wrong.
False Accusations: One should never, ever file a false accusation of child abuse against another spouse. You would be surprised with how often this happens when there is anger in the heat of the moment. Let professionals handle these matters if this is suspected.
When tensions are high during divorce, the first action you may think of is seeking revenge as soon as possible. However, as we have shown, there are many ways this can backfire and leave you with less. Speak to us today about the appropriate actions to take during divorce.