Amicable Divorce: What is it and How Do You Have One?

amicable divorceWhat is amicable divorce? Often times, when you hear of divorce, you think about how heated the process can become and how difficult decisions are when you have many harsh issues to deal with. You don’t want your divorce to become a drawn-out brawl, which is why you want to go through amicable divorce. Amicable divorce is when you make the decision to divorce peacefully. But how is this done and is it truly possible?

How to Have an Amicable Divorce

Divorcing Without Blame: You might think that there is always blame to pin on your ex-spouse; however, this is not always the case. You might blame your spouse for why your marriage failed when, in all reality, it might have been a joint effort for a variety of reasons. The time for blame has passed and now it means working together to reach an agreement on a variety of issues that mean everything to you.

Focus on Big Picture: Focus on the big picture without every little thing that went wrong. You don’t want to be confrontational about matters that just don’t really call for it. Take the time to sit down with your ex-spouse and go over the aspects that are most important to you, such as your wants and needs moving forward. 

Negotiate in Good Faith: You want to negotiate in good faith and be upfront about important matters like assets and income. Lying and hiding this information will never work out well for you in the end. You want to have a good faith negotiation if you are looking for less stress, which means being accurate and truthful for every step.

Needs of Children First: Place the needs of your children first, which goes above and beyond working with them through the divorce. It also means being a good co-parent with your ex-spouse. This will be less stress for you when you realize that your children can have a good relationship with both for you. 

Work Outside of Court at Times: Many people think that divorce proceedings will be the tell-all and having a judge make decisions is just easiest, but this is not the case. You don’t want a judge making every decision for you, so sit down with your ex to negotiate matters you believe you can solve in a peaceful manner.

Having an amicable divorce is not an impossible feat, though many people see it this way until they actually endure it. Divorce is not always easy but you can make the process easier by working with your spouse in this desperate time. At the Montes Law Firm, we want to speak with you about your case. Call us to find out how we can help.